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  • An Introduction

    By Caroline Grant and Elrena Evans May 4, 2008 2:52 pm

    It gives us great pleasure to launch the Mama, PhD blog here on Inside Higher Ed! Mama, PhD is a group blog written by seven women attempting to balance parenthood with some form of academic career, and they'll be sharing their struggles and joys here as they go. The bloggers are also all contributors to our anthology, Mama, PhD: Women Write about Motherhood and Academic Life, due out this summer from Rutgers University Press.

    We decided to assemble Mama, PhD because it's the book we needed when we entered graduate school and the academic job market. We wanted to know that blending family life with life in the ivory tower might be possible; we needed to know that other women were attempting this balancing act. We hope that by collecting and publishing these stories, we can encourage and inspire women as they try to decide if, when, and how to balance motherhood and academic work.

    Caroline, senior editor and columnist for Literary Mama, got married six weeks after earning her PhD and got pregnant, two years later, the same week as finally landing a good teaching job. She thought she might attempt to combine teaching and motherhood, but over the course of her pregnancy and brief maternity leave realized that she needed to leave academia. Elrena, a columnist for Literary Mama, found out she was expecting during her second semester of PhD coursework, but her plans to sail blithely through her pregnancy while continuing her studies were radically altered by serious pregnancy complications. After trying to balance recovery, new motherhood, and graduate student life for a semester, she realized she needed to take a year off and rethink her commitment to the academy. For now, we work outside the confines of the ivory tower, but the issues for parents in academe still concern us both.

    Our bloggers write from a variety of positions. Libby Gruner is a tenured English professor at midcareer who started her family in graduate school; her oldest child should be heading off to college in the fall. Della Fenster's a mother of three and a mathematics professor who factors her children and her work into a careful equation. Megan Pincus Kajitani offers the perspective of a former grad student and graduate career counselor, now freelancing from home as she raises a young daughter. Anjalee Deshpande Nadkarni is a professor, theatre director and single mom, transitioning from urban life to a small liberal arts college in rural Pennsylvania. And finally, Liz Stockwell, Dana Campbell and Susan Bassow write collaboratively about crafting non-traditional academic careers in the sciences while they stay home with their young children.

    We're delighted to have the opportunity to broaden the scope of the work/family discussion beyond the pages of our book and into the campus arena and the blogosphere. The Mama, PhD blog on Inside Higher Ed is a terrific opportunity to spark dialogue, and hopefully encourage change. So please join the conversation!

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Comments on An Introduction

  • Posted by Susan , DMA on May 5, 2008 at 4:45am EDT
  • I am excited this blog is starting! I finished a doctorate in music literally less than 24 hours before my daughter was born (my second child; I have a 2yo son as well). I'm taking a break from academic life because my children are so young and need me right now, but I miss being in that environment. A lot. I look forward to reading what these women have to say.

  • Thanks
  • Posted by karen on May 5, 2008 at 7:15am EDT
  • This will be interesting to read. At times on the journey to the final goal, the PhD, I wonder if I am going crazy with all that has to be done! Now, I can see what others experience and determine if my struggles are typical!
    thanks,
    karen

  • Posted by Oronte , A Blogger on May 5, 2008 at 8:35am EDT
  • Great to see you here! I look forward to reading....

  • Mama, PhD
  • Posted by Thalyta on May 5, 2008 at 9:20am EDT
  • Thanks! Wish I had access to this kind of blog when doing my Masters a few years ago - while starting a new job, losing my faithful maid after 12 years, trying to get 5-year-old twins and a 9-year-old to settle in a new town and routine, and supporting a husband with a new job. Now I'm on the PhD - finalising immigration plans, getting through the twins' first exams... I look forward to reading!

  • Thank you!
  • Posted by GL on May 5, 2008 at 9:30am EDT
  • What a wonderful idea for a blog, I look forward to your posts. I am the mother of a three year old and a six month old, preparing my tenure packet as we speak. Busy busy busy, but I wouldn't change it for the world. At the same time, though, it's nice to be able to hear what others are going through. Thanks for starting this!

  • Posted by anunreliablenarrator on May 5, 2008 at 10:20am EDT
  • sweet! I used to have to leave my doctoral seminar to express milk in the ladies room - it seemed like the ultimate match of competing needs. But thrilled to have both a child and an education to be proud of. I can't wait to read more of the blog.

  • Looking forward to reading more
  • Posted by M. Gabriela Torres on May 5, 2008 at 10:35am EDT
  • This collaborative blog is so long coming for me managing two boys (2 and 4) and the beginnings of a career.
    Thank you for putting it together and I look forward to reading more!

  • Posted by PhD Mommy on May 5, 2008 at 10:35am EDT
  • As an English PhD student and mother of two, I've noticed that most women grad students and faculty are single or married without children. Sometimes I feel like others in the field are unable to relate to me when I need to leave at a certain time in the evening to pick the kids up from daycare or get home in time for a bedtime story. It seems that both the academy and family can be all-consuming, so it's difficult to find balance. I am so interested in hearing about how other women are balancing family life with life in the academy (teaching, research, writing, service, etc).

  • Posted by Lyn Blanchfield on May 5, 2008 at 11:00am EDT
  • I am so glad that this blog is starting up. I have a PhD in history and have two kids, an 8 year old and a 2 year old. I am currently looking for full-time work and finding the process to be very exhausting and want to know how other PhDmoms are coping with family/life/work/spouse issues.

  • Posted by Dr. Laura on May 5, 2008 at 11:10am EDT
  • "Mama Ph.D." is a blog whose time has definitely come. I'm a part-time research associate with a two-year old daughter, and completed writing my dissertation during my daughter's first year. My PT status is ideal for now, giving my a flexible schedule doing work that I love but with time for my family. However, I still often feel very pulled between my various roles, and worry that I'm not doing either one as well as I could or should be. The pull between the personal and professional for academic women can be so intense, yet I think many of us consider ourselves incredibly lucky to have intellectual and emotional lives of such richness. I look forward to the conversations here-- and would also be thrilled if the voices of woman from academia in other parts of the world could be included in this discussion.

  • Wonderful!
  • Posted by Elizabeth , doc student Mommy on May 5, 2008 at 11:30am EDT
  • I can only echo many of the moms here who are excited to see this blog starting up. I discovered I was pregnant 2 months before I was accepted into the doctorate program in HE Administration, and decided to go for it. Luckily, I delivered in the summer and had 7 weeks before I had to return to school. I was also lucky enough to have a GRA position that allowed me to create my own schedule, thanks to a wonderful dean who hired me, knowing that I was expecting. Now, I'm trying to write a dissertation, work part-time to pay the bills (hubby doesn't make enough to support us on his own), and keep an active, intelligent 4 year-old son from destroying the house. Now, if I could just find a kindergarten program that would take him this fall! :-)

  • Mama Ph.D.
  • Posted by Stella Hansen , professor at Bay College on May 5, 2008 at 11:55am EDT
  • As my last of three daughters prepares to graduate from high school I can say that having a Ph.D. while having our children has been very challenging and rewarding. I also took some time off after my degree completion to be with my new born and 2 year old daughters. I taught as an adjunct occasionally, but spent a good 10 years being with each of my 4 children till they were in school full time. I don't regret it now, as I see they have been very successful, and well adjusted. There wasn't a day care option for me, and I didn't have family support to turn to. next spring I plan on attending my own daughter's Ph.D. graduation. It is full circle.

  • Cool
  • Posted by Julie Love , Dr. at Lone Star College - Montgomery on May 5, 2008 at 11:55am EDT
  • This is a really cool, exciting idea & I look forward to following the blog. I'm always curious about moms in higher education. I'm an associate professor of economics & not yet a mom but look forward to becoming one in the near future.

  • Mama, PhD
  • Posted by Sallie on May 5, 2008 at 2:00pm EDT
  • I am not a big reader of blogs - who has the time? - but I look forward to this one. I am curious to know how many of us are part of a so-called two body problem (with a partner or spouse who also is in academia)? B/c my balancing act involves being mama to two young children and being partner and colleague to my husband, who is in the same field as I am (but not at the same institution) alongside my own teaching and writing (which frankly is more a wish than reality). On second thought, perhaps "balance" is not exactly the word that I mean ;)

  • What timing!
  • Posted by Considering the PhD on May 5, 2008 at 3:05pm EDT
  • I can't wait to read more! Three years into our marriage, my ABD husband and I will complete our degrees in spring 2009 (mine a master's degree)! But now I'm wrestling with starting a family or a PhD program. What perfect timing for me to find your blog!

  • So, where's Papa?
  • Posted by Equality Feminist on May 5, 2008 at 3:10pm EDT
  • As thrilled as I am to see this blog, why am I not surprised that women, not men, are launching this discussion? Women alone can't "balance" the demands of the second shift. Attention, men: if you're a hands-on father struggling with similar issues, please contribute -- and challenge the powers-that-be at your institution to recognize that parenting is not just women's work.

  • parenting and academia
  • Posted by rebecca on May 5, 2008 at 6:15pm EDT
  • I greet you all at the beginning of your new blog. I am at the end of my academic career; have put in 34 years at a community college, will transition to adjunct in 2-3 years. My mothering experience was an add-on to my academic career; I become a step-parent in 1988 and a mom in 1995. I took about 8 months off for the second, but since then have worked full-time. I think that a commnity college is a wonderful academic environment for balancing parenting and work. I must admit that before I was a step-mom or mom, I worked harder - my whole identity was on the line in that one basket!
    Since motherhood I have been more balanced.

    Perhaps the biggest missing element in my life is intimacy/romance with my husband. At our ages, and after long bouts with infertility, that might have been the case even without the pressure of co-managing the second shift. The 'literature' suggests that women today who work outside the home spend less time on housework and childcare than their working mothers did, and that men today spend more time on housework and child care than their working fathers did, but that women still do over 60% of the housework/childcare. That explains why men and women are tired and angry with each other, I guess.
    If I caught the "7 blogettes" profiles correctly, three work full-time in academia, two work part-time and two are currently not working in academia? Is that right? I didn't catch the marital/or partnered status of each.
    My best to all of you. I am forwarding this to a dear friend who is a young mother who just finishing up her PhD. Maybe she will get some comfort here. Blessings on you all for a successful blog and even better lives!

  • welcome addition
  • Posted by dr on May 5, 2008 at 6:15pm EDT
  • I'm glad to see this blog, although I'll echo Equality Feminist's point about the need for balance. As an English professor and writing program administrator with two children under the age of five, I think that we need to publicize the possibilities as well as the challenges of those choices.

  • Thank you
  • Posted by Elrena , Coeditor at Mama, PhD on May 5, 2008 at 8:30pm EDT
  • Thank you all for your comments on our debut post! This is exactly the kind of exchange Caroline and I were hoping to foster through`Mama, PhD (the book) and now Mama, PhD (the blog).

    A word about fathers: we agree, absolutely, that the kind of balance we seek is only possible if everyone is working together. All of these issues are men's issues too, but since we bear the biological brunt of childcare, we focused our book on women. We write about that in the introduction to the book, and a couple of our contributors write about it in their essays as well.

    I'm sure that's a subject we'll be hearing a lot more about as the blog progresses, and I look forward to hearing dads weigh in via the comment section.

    Again, thanks so much for the warm welcome, and the enthusiasm for the blog! We're thrilled that InsideHigherEd has asked us to be here.

  • Posted by Jenn , Ph.D. Candidate at GMU on May 5, 2008 at 9:20pm EDT
  • What a great site. It was actually forwarded to me by one of my advisors! I am finishing my 3rd year in a Ph.D. program and attempting to defend my dissertation proposal next month. I went back to school (in Special Ed and Arts Integration) as a personal goal when my youngest was 1 (I also had a 2.5 year old and a 5 year old). For me, the hardest part has been finding the time to complete the work. I am the "mom" around here in addition to also running a private tutoring business and teaching some adjunct courses here and there. My husband has been incredibly supportive, both emotionally (the end of the semester is always a bear around here) and with child care duty on the weekends and whenever I am "over the top" (which feels like most days lately). As I am finishing course work (tomorrow actually), I feel I can finally see the light; although this last push for my proposal and HSRB approval is taking it out of me pretty quickly. I too, find difficulty in prioritizing and balancing time to get both my "mom" duties done and my "school" work completed. I can say that taking this one has produced a pretty fair amount of guilt for the time I need to take away from class visits at the elementary school, field trips, just goofy fun days in order to get everything done. Some how, by the grace of god or pure and simple perseverance, it all gets done (except the laundry of course!)
    I look forward to reading about others mom going through this same process and finally knowing I am not alone out there in the dissertation world with three kids hugging my side and an overflowing sink of dirty dishes!

  • sorry to rain on the parade
  • Posted by jcl , lecturer on May 6, 2008 at 10:40am EDT
  • Four out of seven of the bloggers are staying home? One of the "nontraditional academic careers in the sciences" consists of "leading after-school science sessions, running the Science Fair, and supporting her daughters’ teachers in scientific and math projects"? I'm sorry, but as a young female PhD who hopes to have a family and a career, this sends an incredibly discouraging message to me. It's great that they made whatever choice was best for them, but staying home full-time isn't "blending family life with life in the ivory tower."

  • Posted by Kay on May 6, 2008 at 10:40am EDT
  • What a wonder... to find voices which echo so many of my thoughts... I am in a different posiition: as a mother of four: 15.5, 12, 11 and 8.5 and an artist, teacher and aspiring filmmaker, I constantly seek the "answer" for my career questions. I dreamt of being a professor and while my youngest was 2 and I was teaching in a public school board, I started my masters. I soon learned that that would have to wait, and over a decade later, I am dreaming again. I accept that I may have to piece a Masters together very slowly but have been warned that that can be detrimental to one's success. I also question what the world of academe would be like for me, a woman of 55 by the time I could think of completing a masters and phd program. I don't believe in giving up dreams, but I don't want to dream unrealistically! Any thougts are welcome!

  • English
  • Posted by iris , Professor at united theological College on May 7, 2008 at 7:05am EDT
  • Hi,
    This is iris Devadason from Banglaore, India. I'm 68 and I am just going to get my Ph.D. as I started late but have persisted even after retirement.
    Will have the Viva shortly.
    Girls never give up!
    Could the men have done so if they had to bear kids too.Think about the fuss arounbd the house if they had tried.
    I have two grown childen and two grandsons.
    I feel great having submitted my dissertation
    Keep it upladies !

  • The Spirit
  • Posted by kay on May 7, 2008 at 10:40am EDT
  • Thank you Iris! That's the Spirit... and just the voice I was hoping to hear!

  • Posted by Liz , co-blogger at ABC's and PhD's on May 8, 2008 at 3:10pm EDT
  • JCL writes, “staying home full-time isn’t ‘blending family life with life in the ivory tower.’” When I left my academic career to be a full-time caregiver (and I don’t stay home full-time, believe me!), I didn’t just close that chapter on my life and give up all the ideas I had, the connections I’d made, or the passion that led me on my career path in the first place. It’s not that simple. The ivory tower still looms in the distance, especially when I think about what to do next. Back to teaching? Research? Something new? How will I blend that in? What if I decide not to? We all have a place in this conversation, regardless of where we are now, or how we’re using our science backgrounds. What better way for a science PhD to share her skills than to get children excited about science at an early age! It’s an opportunity to make a real difference. Those who look beyond the ivory tower and reach out to K-12 students inspire an early appreciation not only for science but for literature and the arts as well.

  • rain
  • Posted by dr.dad on May 9, 2008 at 5:05am EDT
  • I'm with Liz (ABCs and PhDs, May 6) on this one. "Young female PhD[s] who hope[s] to have a family and a career" don't need to be "incredibly discourag[ed]" by moms at home with a PhD. The bloggers here are another kind of role model for coping with the inevitable conflicts between the needs of very young kids and the opportunities of a fantastic career. Different moms resolve this conflict in different ways, and many (like the bloggers here) were genuinely surprised to find that the best thing for them seemed to be to stay at home. I advise my female and male graduate students (who have all gone on to great jobs) to anticipate this conflict and how they will deal with it. But as Liz says, it's hard to know until you're in it (and what do I know, anyway, since I'm just a clean-the-floors-and-toilets, take-the-kids-to-karate-and-ballet, clean-the-cat-box, take-out-the-trash, do-the-dishes, pay-the-bills, put-the-kids-to-bed-at-night tenured professor dad).

  • No Chance of Rain on Parade
  • Posted by Mbth1979 , To JLC on June 28, 2008 at 5:20pm EDT
  • JLC: Why would you feel discouraged that these parents, who have already achieved so much and will continue to do so in the future, should choose to stay at home with their young children for several years? Some parents feel that staying home for a bit is what is best for their children. They are thinking ahead and prioritizing according to their own set of values. Judge not.

  • English Language
  • Posted by iris , retd.prof at United Theological College , India on November 6, 2008 at 7:00am EST
  • Thanks Kay.
    Sorry, am returning to this site after long.
    I forgot to mention that I started my Ph.D only after my husband had died!!I could not have done it when he was around as he was sick and I had to care for him.
    Also,frankly, most Indian men dont like to see their wives studying and being smarter than them, even though we do concede that they are the chief breadwinners etc and keep a low profile always..here in India.
    Have just come back from the USA and see the younger generation of Indian men very different!Good for them.
    A student of mine, who acted in a play for me after getting permission to do so from her guide(she was writing her Masters' thesis ) had a baby, soon after!
    She did not tell any of us and we did not guess either.She was so slim and though I did the costumes too I did not notice!
    That should take care of the intellectual vs emotional/physical aspect of all our efforts to be scholars and mothers and wives!!
    Iris