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October 4, 2006

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A New York Times article last fall managed to offend just about everyone. Its thesis -- that women at elite colleges increasingly plan to leave the work force when they have children -- angered many feminists, and media critics accused the Times of publishing anecdotes masquerading as social science.

A new study suggests that the article also overstated the number of women who hope to leave the workforce long-term. Yale University’s Women’s Center released a survey last week finding that just 4.1 percent of Yale women plan to stop work entirely after having children, compared to 0.7 percent of men. A vast majority of women -- 71.8 percent -- reported they would take less than one year off work after their children were born.

A total of 469 Yale students completed the survey: 153 men, 315 women, and one student who did not identify gender. The surveys were distributed to 2,000-2,200 students by masters of five of Yale’s 12 residential colleges who agreed to send them to students.

Victoria Brescoll, now a postdoctoral research fellow at Yale’s Rudd Center for Food Policy and Obesity, who conducted the survey in the 2005-6 academic year as a graduate student in social psychology, said the survey results suggest that men and women equally value career and family, contradicting the implication of Louise Story’s September 2005 article, “Many Women at Elite Colleges Set Career Path to Motherhood.”

“What does 'many' mean? Personally, I don’t think 4 percent equals many, ” Brescoll said.

Story reported in the now famous article that 60 percent of 138 freshmen and senior women interviewed at Yale said they planned to cut back on work or stop working entirely for at least a few years once they have children. About half of those women planned to work part-time, Story said, with the other half planning on stopping work altogether.

The article has come under fire since its publication: Slate’s media critic, Jack Shafer wrote that Story “presented her (anecdotal) results to sound like good sociology” and The Nation columnist, Katha Pollitt, said the article represents a tendency by the Times to write about women dropping out of the workplace without sufficient data to support it.

“I thought that Louise Story’s story was a very good example of how you can find what you look for,” Pollitt said in an interview Tuesday. “I think the study was skewed, I think she was more interested in the people that gave the kinds of answers she was looking for.”.

She added: “It’s very nice to have some data that speaks against the dominant story line that The New York Times and other elite publications present.”

But Story’s conclusions are not always as far off the Yale study’s numbers as one might think. Story’s numbers, which applied to women who planned to leave the work place or work part-time for at least two years after having children, are not directly comparable to the Yale Women’s Center study, which asked students how long they would take off from work after having a child and offered a variety of time lengths. The closest parallel to Story’s cutoff was “one to three years” -- an option chosen by 11.7 percent of women responding.

The Yale study also did not indicate the percentage of women who would like to work part-time, though it did find that there was not a statistically significant difference between the number of men and women who would continue to work full-time if they had either a partner to support them or could find high-quality child care. But, as far as they can be compared, the Yale study found that 22.8 percent of women said they’d stop working for a year or more, compared to roughly 30 percent of women in Story’s article who planned to stop working for two or more years, with another 30 percent planning to go the part-time route.

Eric Sandberg-Zakian, a senior who is outreach coordinator for the Yale Women’s Center, said that there were similarities in those two figures, but that Story’s overall tone depicted the 30 percent not as women taking some time off, but “deciding they don’t want to be in the work force and that family is more important to them than career” – a conclusion Sandberg-Zakian said the Yale study doesn’t bear out.

Story, who now covers advertising for the Times, referred to remarks she made in a speech at Yale explaining her methodology for the study, in which she points out that she only counted in her 60 percent figure women who said they’d like to leave work altogether or work part-time for at least two years.

“It’s possible that this became quite a politically charged issue after my article was published that it could have had even greater skew in who responded,” Story said of the data in the Yale survey. She also criticized the Yale study’s low response rate.

Story also referenced a study conducted by a senior at Princeton, described in the Princeton Alumni Weekly, that she said has similar data to the numbers she reported. Amy Sennett, a 2006 graduate, wrote that women are significantly more likely to interrupt their careers to have a family, with 79 percent of women and 67 percent of men saying they would interrupt their careers, and women being willing to do so for a “much longer period of time.”

In addition to the controversial data regarding career plans post-childbirth, the Yale study also finds that men and value equally value careers, but women see more barriers, Brescoll said, including issues of day care and being able to financially support a child. It finds that a higher percentage of men than women plan to become parents, perhaps suggesting, Sandberg-Zakian said, both that men find it more socially acceptable to say they want children and, more negatively, that women are more likely to understand the barriers facing child-rearing.

“We wanted to ask a lot more questions other than just how much time are you going to take off?” Brescoll said. “We wanted to tell a more complete story.”

The Yale study will be posted on the Yale Women’s Center’s Web site later this week.

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Comments on Dueling Data on Women and Work

  • To the contrary
  • Posted by B.D. on October 4, 2006 at 6:15am EDT
  • News has been defined as that which is at odds with the conventional and everyday.

    I look at all my college-educated friends (married couples) and see many women college graduates decided to stay at home with their young children.

    I can't think of any of my college-educated friends -- men or women -- who, given the choice, would stay home with their young children. How much common sense does it take to note the obvious?

    But someone has to pay for growing federal entitlements. So many go to work. Many are men. Deal with it.

    BTW: Let me guess -- Ms. Pollitt's group has no problem with Newsweek's features on Mr. Mom, right? Because it fits in their political philosophy and stereotypes, right? (I know of one full-time Mr. Mom and one part-time.)

  • Correx
  • Posted by B.D. on October 4, 2006 at 6:45am EDT
  • " .. I can’t think of any of my college-educated friends — men or women — who, given the choice, would NOT stay home with their young children .."

    Because young children are cute, adorable, can bossed-around, and still can learn to avoid double-negatives.

  • Survey not about women and work
  • Posted by Jonathan Cohen , Professor of mathematics at DePaul University on October 4, 2006 at 6:45am EDT
  • Asking college students about how they will balance work and family is more an exercise in surveying ideology than a measure of likely future behavior.

    College students simply don't know what the future holds in store for them in terms of family or career. They do not know how successful their careers will be either professionally or financially, they do not know how they will like pursuing them, and they do not know what financial limitations they will have on how they live their lives.

    Similarly, they do not know what their marriages will be like, let alone whether they will even get married. If they do get married, they do not know whether they will have children or if so how many. They do not know what role their spouses will play in balancing work and family. And probably most important, they can not predict what kind of challenges their children will present. Some children are simply higher maintenance than others and that will effect the way that they balance career and family.

    The chances of having at least one child who is retarded, physically handicapped, autistic, attention deficit or simply difficult to control is a lot higher than 4% and any of those problems will weigh heavily on how they balance career and family.

    Life is something of an adventure and we don't really know how we will react to things until we do them. College students simply are not capable of providing data on women and work. It is somewhat like predicting how many men will become professional athletes by asking twelve year old boys whether they want to be.

  • Leaving work to be with kids
  • Posted by Elizabeth , Faculty at Baker College on October 4, 2006 at 7:30am EDT
  • Why is it considered 'dropping out' to stay home with preschool children? The increase in daycare centers and ECE certifications certainly indicate that some people see the value and work necessary in caring for young children.

    I continue to wonder why so many put value on spending time at work - but not spending the time with young children. They are our future - and our greatest resource. Therefore, caring for children should be considered the highest calling of all proffessions.

  • Posted by K.T. on October 4, 2006 at 7:30am EDT
  • That anyone gets "offended" by the employment choices of others is a pretty humorous (while also sad) state of affairs. I think certain populations of society are far too interested in the decisions of others.

  • Posted by K.T. on October 4, 2006 at 8:00am EDT
  • Why is it considered ‘dropping out’ to stay home with preschool children?

    I've always referred to it the opposite way when both parents return to the workforce after a child... "dropping out of parenthood." Again, somewhat in jest, but then again not really.

  • "offended..."
  • Posted by Philosophy Prof on October 4, 2006 at 8:50am EDT
  • I think that some people were offended not by anyone's preferences but by the possible sneakiness of the methodology of asking just a few questions and then extrapolating to some larger conclusions, and then suggesting that the conclusions had hard data to back them up. That's a pernicious methodology that is guided by wanting to get a certain result, but that uses the rhetoric of "data" and "science" for the sake of making their ideology appear to be a kind of inevitable fact -- where the ideology is that deep-down a woman's true desire is to stay at home. And it sounds like such offense may have been well-founded.

  • People want to avoid work--reasonable
  • Posted by H. E. Baber on October 4, 2006 at 9:20am EDT
  • Whatever the figures are, why do we take claims by some women that they want to drop out of work to take care of kids at face value? Cynically, it seems to me that because it's still socially acceptable for women to stay home with young children, they use child care as an excuse to avoid work.

    Who wouldn't? I wouldn't work if I didn't have to.

    The real question is, what's worse: working or taking care of young children? Increasingly educated women with access to jobs that aren't too bad consider work the lesser of two evils. For women who don't have those options it's a no-brainer: of course even taking care of a bunch of brats isn't nearly as awful as cashiering at Walmart. When I was growing up it was a commonplace that you got pregnant in order to quit work.

    What people seem to forget is that work is not a good--it's a bad, and the reason we do it is to avoid worse bads, e.g. poverty or being stuck at home with little kids.

  • Posted by Pam on October 4, 2006 at 10:01am EDT
  • I fully respect others' choices, although mine was to work outside of the home while raising two children. I have any number of friends and colleagues who have chosen to have one parent at home full time -- each family must chooe what is right for their own circumstances and preferences. However, seldom mentioned in these debates is the potential value of children learning from many different adults and other children through caregivers and various child-care arrangments. My kids had many different baby-sitters and forms of child care as they were growing up -- and they have thanked me for that years later -- believing that the exposure to diverse people and places made a very positive difference in their lives. And although I had a lot of help from many people -- it's pretty clear that my husband and me were still the strongest influences on our children - although geographically far apart, our family remains very close, with many interests and values in common.

    My happy and successful young adult daughters read the article last fall with great interest, but we did not believe that it was balanced and were offended by some of the quotes, e.g "you can tell the difference between children whose mothers are home full time and those who are not." As someone who knows and works with many, many teenagers and as my kids think of their friends--we very much beg to differ. I appreciate the comment above that young men and women do not know what their life will hold for them--another issue that is seldom raised in the women and work debate. I have taught my daughters to be responsible for their own financial futures and to think twice about putting themselves (and eventually their children) in a position where they might be financially dependent upon someone else, even a loving husband/life partner. The future is just too uncertain -- I've had a number of friends who stopped their careers and then were divorced or widowed much younger than they might have expected. The subsequent financial pain can be as devestating and more long-lasting than the personal pain. Also lost in this debate is the fact that for most of society -- two incomes are necessary for a middle-income lifestyle. This debate is largely only about people of privilege.

    In real life, I think that most of us who have made different choices do actually get along. Simply making once choice is not a value statement about someone else's different choice. On the other hand -- now that they're grown up -- no one has the right to tell me that I harmed my children by working while they were little -- the proof is in the pudding.

  • some people LIKE work
  • Posted by Edie on October 4, 2006 at 10:10am EDT
  • I've done both--been at home with my kid and been in the workforce. I'm now trying to balance the two by working part-time.

    I love my son to pieces. But being at home with a 2-year-old 24/7 made me nutso. I can't talk baby talk, play with Play-Doh and clean the house all day.

    I love being with adults and intellectual stimulation. I love producing something of value that I can claim as my own. The only way I could NOT work is if I were rich enough to buy that kind of stimulation (i.e. plenty of theater, charity work, etc.)

    I also recognize that I am very lucky in that as a writer and teacher it is possible--just barely--to work part-time. Serious part-time jobs are hard to find.

  • Staying Home
  • Posted by kgotthardt on October 4, 2006 at 10:10am EDT
  • I agree that while some women in college have a preference at the time they are enrolled, it is difficult to project what will happen when you add fiscal responsibilities and a child to the equation. Daycare, values, and needs change a parent's life drastically, and the article would have been better serving to address these life changes as opposed to the stats of women planning to leave work. Women who like to be externally, intellectually challenged generally do not want to stay home full-time on a long-term basis. I say this based on observations of stay-at-home-moms and based on my own experiences. While I have worked full-time, I work only part-time now because juggling the needs of my children (one of whom is learning disabled, the other who has ADHD) with the demands of a full-time job is nearly impossible. It is difficult to find work with an accommodating schedule that will fill in the daytime hours I have available without infringing on the time I need to spend with my children. The Times would have been better off speaking with and reporting on women who have degrees and have children as opposed to those who might not yet have children. Or, it might be interesting to compare opinions before and after having children. But projecting into an undetermined future is so...unscientific.

  • WORDS HAVE MEANING
  • Posted by ClioSmith , Associate Professor at Trinity Bible College on October 4, 2006 at 10:55am EDT
  • As reported by Elizabeth Redden, "Yale University’s Women’s Center released a survey last week finding that just 4.1 percent of Yale women plan to stop work entirely after having children. . . ."

    Stop work entirely? So, raising infants and children does not qualify as "work?"

    Yes, I know, Redden and the authors of the Yale study will insist they don't intend to demean any mothering choices. But the language cited reflects certain assumptions, whether those assumptions are held consciously or subconsciously.

    To suggest that mothers who choose to stay at home are "not working" is as offensive as a variety of class, race or gender slurs that progressive-minded folks have earnestly and rightly sought to root out of our language.

  • Posted by ML on October 4, 2006 at 11:30am EDT
  • As a sociologist, the thing that is troubling about Story's claim is not that some women choose to stay home with their children. Rather , it is that it is still almost entirely women who make that choice. Again, as a sociologist, that trend suggests that the women who make that choice are doing so in an environment of constrained options, and the result is continuing gender inequality. After all, isn't it economically rational for employers to prefer male employees when male employees are much less likely to quit work to stay home?

  • dueling data--new data
  • Posted by sherry sullivan , Dr. at BGSU on October 4, 2006 at 11:30am EDT
  • Yes, women are opting-out for family reasons. But women are also leaving corporate America because their jobs are boring and lack challenge, there's few opportunities for advancement, their values and the values of the company don't match, discrimination, and their work isn't meaningful. And many men are opting-out for similar reasons.

    Why individuals opt-out is a complex issue often overly simplified in the media.

    People are weary of the unreasonable demands of corporations and they are choosing different career paths. They are opting-out of corporate America to:

    *become entrepreneurs
    *be self-employed, often with the use of technology
    *move to firms, sometimes small businesses, that fulfill their needs for authenticity, balance and challenge
    *engage in part-time employment or
    * care for children, elderly relatives or to engage in volunteer work before opting-back into the work force

    Lisa Mainiero and I just completed a 5 year, multi-method study of over 3,000 working professionals and found that people are "opting-out" for complex reasons. If you would like to learn more about our research--and the resulting book, The Opt-Out Revolt: Why People Are Leaving Companies to Create Kaleidoscope Careers (Davies-Black 2006), please go to our website: www.theoptoutrevolt.com. The website has a great deal of interesting information including a company audit and what well known experts like Dr. Rosabeth Moss Kanter, have to say on the issues.

    Sherry E. Sullivan, Ph.D.
    co author, with Lisa A. Mainiero, Ph.D., of The Opt-Out Revolt: Why People Are Leaving Companies to Create Kaleidoscope Careers (Davies-Black 2006)
    www.theoptoutrevolt.com

  • The Money Issue
  • Posted by Has to work on October 4, 2006 at 11:55am EDT
  • I find this whole discussion interesting because it's based on women from Yale. I wonder if you'd get some different answers from women going to school at, for example, Cal State Los Angeles. There's no choice for some of us. If I have a child and then don't work, we won't eat or have a roof over our heads. I'm not sure how these women who stop working are paying their bills once they stop bringing in money, unless they're all conveniently married to husbands who bring in 6-figure salaries. I think there's some class issues going on here that haven't been fully explored by researchers--Yale isn't exactly representative of "all women".

  • Work-Family BALANCE
  • Posted by Sarah Schneewind , Assistant Prof on October 4, 2006 at 12:05pm EDT
  • I'm with Edie. I love my kid, but spend all day with him every day? No thank you. If work is just "a bad" you are in the wrong line of work. Why don't you find something you like doing?

  • What do kids know?
  • Posted by Mary Jacobs on October 4, 2006 at 12:05pm EDT
  • Women's choices often surprise me. I know gung-ho career women who opted to stay home with their kids, and not-so-ambitious types who chose to go back to work, voluntarily. As a college student, I assumed I'd never stop working, but, due a variety of particular circumstances (a recent move to a new city, a spouse with a heavy travel schedule) I changed my mind when the time came. So, agreed, at the age of 20 or so, you really have no idea.

    And may I add that H.E. Baber's remarks prove that one can be cynical and idiotic at the same time? The "fact" that some women may choose to get pregnant to avoid working really does not relate to this debate.

  • You've got to be kidding
  • Posted by Rebecca on October 4, 2006 at 12:40pm EDT
  • I find it hard to believe that presumably well-educated individuals in 2006 are even having this conversation.

    Quality childcare is work that's as rigorous as a full course load plus a department chairmanship. Low-quality care is minimally demanding, like any number of well-paid career positions. As a parent or caregiver, if your own or someone else's child dies as a result of your even momentary neglect, the consequences are more permanently devastating than those that follow most mistakes in any career or profession.

    You can achieve a rewarding career out of delivering exceptional social, educational, recreational, and spiritual activities to your own or someone else's children. Of course, genuine love can't be bought or sold.

    What matters? That ALL children are safe, loved, nurtured, educated, shown responsible moral behavior, given abundant opportunities, and assisted in fulfilling their promise and in achieving their dreams. All of us should want this for all children, no matter what means of delivery is chosen. It is most often easier to provide this for one's own children. With luck, effort, financial resources and, frequently, with support from family members, you can achieve quality care for your children. No one--father or mother or grandparent--should be professionally penalized for caring for a child.

    Today's front page begs the question of how better parenting or childcare could have made such a difference that certain tragedies might have been averted. A congressman citing early sexual abuse as a factor in his choice to behave in a predatory way, young men in the Middle East growing up without one or both parents to become terrorists under the influence of jihadist mullahs, corporate CEOs defrauding their shareholders, probably reenacting early models that exalted money and power above all else, ad infinitum.

    Shame on anyone who withholds opportunities, denies tenure, or otherwise denigrates a parent or caregiver, male or female. And stay out of the classrooms and lecture halls because I don't want you anywhere near my children!

  • Posted by Hoping for change on October 4, 2006 at 12:55pm EDT
  • What's been missing from these articles is a serious discussion of why these questions aren't being asked of men. We've come to an enlightened age where little boys and girls are encouraged to seek the same career goals. Shouldn't they also be taught that they will have the same responsibilities when it comes to their future families? Boys-- and college-aged men-- should be encouraged to think about how they will handle raising their future children, much as girls and young women are. A new baby should be the responsibility of both parents, and that will only come to pass when men are encouraged to take on as much responsibility for child care as women are. American employers could take a page from their European competitors and ensure that paternity leave is given as equally and freely as maternity leave, and be as willing to work with new fathers on flex-time and other creative arrangements as they are to help new mothers in these ways.

  • Posted by K.T. on October 4, 2006 at 2:10pm EDT
  • I’m not sure how these women who stop working are paying their bills once they stop bringing in money.

    Well, they do it in many ways. As an example, my two brothers and their wives (one brother a computer programmer, the other a high school teacher; one sister-in-law a computer programmer and the other a customer service rep) both knew that it would be important to them for one parent to stay home. When they got married, both husband and wife worked. However, they lived far below their means - living in an apartment or townhouse rather than a house - so that when children did come, they would not have to struggle to pay the bills. They made sure the extra paycheck was not viewed as discretionary income, but as savings so they didn't miss it when it was gone. Many two-income families, in my opinion, simply live to the edge of their means from "day 1" which does not permit the option of staying home once children emerge.

    Then there is the option that many of my friends have chosen... if one desires an ambitious career outside the home and a standard of living at the edge of their means, simply do not have children.

    Much of the difficulty on this issue, in my view, comes from poor financial and reproductive planning. I am not in a place financially where I would be comfortable having children so I don't... Nor, am I in a position to have a parent at home for a child, which is the central consideration for me.

  • Posted by K.T. on October 4, 2006 at 2:15pm EDT
  • Shouldn’t they also be taught that they will have the same responsibilities when it comes to their future families?

    From my experience, I've not found many women who want to engage in that discussion (granted, I consort with a particular type of people). For most of the couples I know who are adamant about having a parent work at home, they generally prefer it be the mother. My brother begged to be a stay-at-home-dad after his first son was born. His wife laughed at him and said, "This has been my lifelong dream... go bring home the bacon like a good husband." That is more often than not the answer I hear from women who stay-at-home (my mother included who had a college degree when most women did not). I'd give anything to stay at home rather than work at a university, but I am generally relegated to my traditional gender role.

  • Ah, the press
  • Posted by Stu Pfied , amateur media critic on October 4, 2006 at 3:30pm EDT
  • From the lead paragraph: "media critics accused the Times of publishing anecdotes masquerading as social science."

    Indeed. And that, to me, raises the really interesting issue in the article: that the press (and TV and radio and Internet news and blogs) sometimes foists low-grade baloney on customers who expect Grade A beef.

    Years ago, a reporter for a very big newspaper interviewed me and a few other people working in an offbeat business. I was able to answer some of the reporter's questions with data and evidence. But I could tell that my facts didn't fit the angle the reporter had already picked for the story. The published article included no mention of the reporter's conversation with me, but it did quote the glib horseshit and lies that several other guys had spouted, because they said what the reporter had wanted to hear. The article was just plain wrong from to start to finish--but I bet that a lot of people believed it.

    During my brief time as a publicity flack, I was more than once amazed by the ease with which I could feed falsehoods to famous newspapers. Only one reporter called my bluff and demanded evidence for claims. The others printed the fairy tales that my bosses and I had made up.

    How many Yale alumnae become stay-at-home mommies is not a very important question. They're free to do what they think best. Whether the "news" is hogwash seems a more important issue.

  • International Comparisons
  • Posted by Roxane Harvey Gudeman at Macalester College on October 6, 2006 at 2:20pm EDT
  • How men and women answer questions about balancing work and family is heavily influenced by prevailing socio-cultural norms and practices. It would be very instructive to compare answers to similar questions in a number of other countries with varying 'work and family' friendly norms and options available.
    That some economically and educationally 'privileged' women in the US (4%, 15%, 30%, whatever) choose to stay home with small children or to work part-time does not prove that universally women are more likely than men to have a 'taste' or 'preference' for child care as some have suggested, citing socio-biological arguments.

  • Posted by M.B. on October 9, 2006 at 3:30pm EDT
  • Hear, hear, Mr. Cohen!

  • I'm an Ivy League educated SAHM
  • Posted by Kimberly Coleman on November 16, 2006 at 11:55am EST
  • I am offended when people demean the decision of educated women to stay at home with their kids. I thought that the whole point of the feminist movement was for women to have options. I attended an Ivy League college and worked in corporate America for almost 8 years before I had my son. Initially, I only planned on taking a year off from “work” to be with him. However, I was not happy with the child care choices available and (more importantly) I wanted to be the one influencing my child the most during his early years. So, after much discussion, my husband and I decided that I would not return to full-time work outside of the home until our child(ren) were in school. I’ve worked in a variety of corporate jobs, including investment banking and let me tell you…there is not a job in the world that is more demanding (or rewarding!) than raising my son. In Manhattan, people spend a lot of money to be educated to raise other people’s kids (and parents pay a lot for others to watch their children!), so why is it of less value when I choose to use my education to raise my own child? It’s not. In any event, I think that women need to respect each other’s choices. Several of my friends are doctors, lawyers, etc. who wish that they could be married and stay at home with their children during their pre-school years…that is their goal. On the other hand, I have several educated friends who can’t afford to (or choose not to) stay at home with their kids and I support their decisions too. We all need to stop being so judgmental about others’ choices. I’ve found that women, who are happy and secure with their life decisions, usually don’t waste time being critical of others.

  • Observations From the Trenches
  • Posted by Nancy Collamer , Career Counselor and Founder of Jobsandmoms.com on November 16, 2006 at 5:50pm EST
  • As a career counselor and founder of the website Jobsandmoms.com who has specialized in working with professional level sequencing moms for the past ten years, I couldn't help but chime in on this discussion.

    With all due respect to the opinions of these fine students, I find it frustrating that so much attention is being paid to a study that tracks theoretical intentions of young people, who are neither working nor parents, and it is foolish to interpret these findings as anthing more significant than youthful speculation. While I personally find it interesting to ask my own daughter, who is a college sophomore, her plans regarding work and children, I would never presume to take her response too seriously. Her work experience is limited to summer jobs and her experience as a mother is (fortunately) non-exsistent. Ten years from now, after she has some experience dealing in the workplace and in the home, then I'll be delighted to give her opinions on this topic more credibility.

    The reality is that work-life choices are determined by a number of factors and nobody can predict the interplay of those factors years in advance. Some choices will be driven by personal preference, but more often than not, financial realities, workplace conditions and the opportunity (or lack thereof) to work a flexible schedule will play a significant role in this process.

    I have counseled hundreds of well-educated women who decided to change their career paths (often more than once) as their lives evolved, and time and time again, these women tell me that it wasn't until after they became mothers that they really had to think seriously about the issue of balancing work and family.

    It would be far more productive for our socity if we payed more attention to promoting flexible work arrangments and spent less time pitting women against one another for the benefit of the media.