This semester, I’m focusing on the most common mistakes that junior faculty members make. I learned last week that there are a whole lot of folks Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places! And that's OK, because the purpose of pointing out the most common errors is to become conscious of them, consider alternative strategies, and make changes that will move you closer towards the goal of winning tenure and promotion. In the spirit of progress toward positive change, let's move on to Mistake #5: Being Reactive Instead of Proactive in Your Professional Relationships.
In a perfect world, new faculty members would be warmly welcomed into their departments and actively nurtured by enthusiastic colleagues. They would ask you to lunch, offer to read your work, initiate stimulating conversations, notice your stress, become your mentor, and offer to collaborate on projects. In short, you would be embraced and supported by members of a vibrant intellectual community so that your transition from graduate student to professor would be efficient and effective.
Unfortunately, most academic departments are far from perfect! So if you passively wait for others to initiate interaction, you are likely to be sitting in your office alone and isolated a great deal of the time. It is also the case that when you don't extend yourself, others may negatively perceive you as aloof, disengaged, or un-collegial. Most importantly, you may be missing out on important relationships, access to critical networks, professional opportunities, and the mentoring you need to thrive.
To be clear, new faculty members should not be single-handedly responsible for initiating relationships and integrating themselves into their new departments. But this is often the reality, especially for women in mostly male departments, and faculty of color in predominantly white departments. If this is your situation, you cannot sit back and reactively wait for senior faculty (who will be voting on your tenure and promotion) to reach out to you and include you in their networks and activities. Instead, your goal should be to proactively initiate relationships with your senior colleagues so that you are spending time each week discussing research and teaching with them.
Moving From a Reactive to a Proactive Stance in Your Professional Relationships
For me, moving from a reactive to proactive stance was one of the most difficult challenges of life on the tenure-track. I was the new faculty member sitting in my office, waiting for the welcome wagon to arrive, and indignant when an entire semester had gone by without a single invitation to lunch or coffee. When I complained to my mentor, his advice to me was, "Get out there and shake it!"
Needless to say, I was horrified (at multiple levels). But I had to ask myself WHY -- as a generally outgoing person -- was I finding it so incredibly difficult to initiate relationships with my colleagues? I realized that: 1) I thought it was their responsibility to initiate a relationship with me, and 2) it's hard for me to connect with people who are inter-personally awkward, unpleasant, cranky, salty, don't share my politics, and/or made it clear that they didn't want me hired in the first place. Acknowledging the problem was half the battle, but let me share with you how I moved from weeping quietly in my office to getting out there and shaking it.
1) Adjust Expectations
While it should not have been solely my responsibility to build relationships with my senior colleagues, that was in fact, my departmental reality. So recognize the reality of YOUR context and go ahead and take the first step in establishing professional relationships. I realized I didn't have to like these people, but they were my colleagues and it was critically important for me to be proactive in developing positive and healthy professional relationships with them.
2) Ask Someone to Lunch
One of my mentors advised me to invite one person per week to lunch during the following semester. If lunch feels like too big of a commitment, then try coffee. If you can't even fathom the idea of coffee with some of your crusty colleagues, then promise yourself you will linger for five minutes in their doorway and have a focused conversation. This will get easier each time you do it, and you can build from doorway to coffee, and coffee to lunch, over time.
3) Ask People for Advice
The easiest conversation starter is to ask someone for their advice. It could be something general or something quite specific, but it should be about research or teaching. People love to give advice to junior faculty and it creates a foundation for you to seek out their counsel later on when you really have a problem and don't know how to resolve it. Asking for advice does NOT communicate weakness or incompetence; it communicates professionalism and a desire to establish a mentoring relationship with the person you're asking.
4) Talk About Your Research
For me, lunch and coffee dates became wonderful opportunities to talk about my research. By letting my colleagues know what projects I was working on, what conceptual or methodological problems I was having, and where I hoped to go in the future, I was "networking." The purpose of networking is connecting people, ideas and opportunities. If your colleagues don't know what you're doing and/or what you need, it's difficult for them to connect with you, and connect you with others. This is far more productive than using your brief time together to complain, gossip, cry, discuss personal problems, or talk about departmental politics. Keep the conversation focused on your work and keep in mind that ALL your colleagues (even the ones you don't like) can have important and helpful things to say about your research.
5) Open Yourself to Others
I learned that everyone is in my life for a purpose and has a tremendous gift to give me. My job is to open up to them so I can receive their gift. You may think: why should I waste time chatting with some non-research-active senior colleague who can't possibly relate to the ever-escalating demands of today's tenure track? Stop and remind yourself that he will be voting on your tenure. Then approach that conversation with a true sense of wonder by asking: Why is this person in my life and what can I learn from him? When I move towards my colleagues in a spirit of openness and hopeful expectation, it shifts the energy of the interaction and I am often delightfully surprised by the gifts they offer me.
Each of these steps helped me move from a reactive stance (waiting for my colleagues to establish relationships with me) to a proactive stance where I initiate contact, shape my relationships, and focus the interactions on what matters. Using your personal power to move forward in this way will help you feel more connected to others in your department, open networks of opportunity, and help to solidify your professional relationships. And the more comfortable you are having substantive conversations with your campus colleagues, the easier it will be when you are at conferences, meetings, and workshops.
THIS WEEK'S CHALLENGE
- Assess your stance towards your colleagues by gently asking yourself if you are proactive or reactive in your relationships with them.
- If you are being proactive, then congratulate yourself for being ahead of the game!
- If you are reactive, pick one thing you can do to change your stance (i.e., invite someone to lunch, initiate a conversation, or stop by and chat).
- Whatever you pick, commit to executing that behavioral change this week.
- If you experience resistance to taking the first step with some of your colleagues, patiently ask yourself WHY?
- Write every day for 30-60 minutes. Daily writing will lead you be more productive and confident as a scholar, teacher, and colleague AND provide you with substantive issues to talk about every single day.
I hope that this week brings each of you the desire to analyze your relationship patterns with your colleagues, the courage to make positive change, and the true sense of empowerment that comes from stepping outside of your comfort zone.
Peace & Productivity,
Kerry Ann Rockquemore