The tragic murder of a women's lacrosse player at the University of Virginia, with a male lacrosse player charged in her death, has set off another round of articles and analysis about whether men's lacrosse players are somehow abusive or prone to violence. An article in The New York Times  profiles the men's lacrosse team at the State University of New York College at Oneonta for a very different reason: tolerance and respect. The article explores the supportive reactions of team members when one of the co-captains came out as gay by writing an essay on the Web site Outsports.  In the essay, Andrew McIntosh, the co-captain who came out, credits his head coach, Dan Mahar, for giving him courage to be honest. The coach stopped a practice when someone criticized a drill as being "so gay," and the coach said that -- whatever one thought of the drill -- that wasn't an appropriate way to criticize it.