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December 02, 2023

Presidential Chainmail

 A current leader asks, "Why can't we be real with each other?"

By  Rachel Toor

The Sandbox

Inside Higher Ed Insider
In illustration of a female leader choosing from masks of different emotions.

From Rachel Toor, Sandboxer-in-Chief

If you've been reading this newsletter, or the columns I wrote for The Chronicle of Higher Education since the beginning of time, you know that my brow can go low, very low. 

For years, I had former grad students come over to watch the latest episodes of The Bachelor. And then, The Bachelorette. It was great because I  have prosopagnosia  am bad at recognizing people and all those blond women and gel-slicked hair guys looked exactly the same to me. It was a judgy pleasure, those "reality shows," until we all started feeling dirty about our judginess.

Recently, on my own, I've indulged in The Golden Bachelor. 

If you've missed it, the main dude is a 71-year-old salt-of-the-earth Hoosier who makes men of a certain age look great and has given women hope that there are mensches to be found. 

The trope of Bachelor Nation is that each season is the "most dramatic season ever." 

This one wasn't. 

The big drama? When a woman who seemed like a terrific match for our man decided to go home because her daughter had just given birth and needed her mom. 

The producers couldn't manufacture conflict among this group of women who couldn't not be themselves, burping and farting and joking about shoe size (!) on national television for their grandkids to see. [Note: I have not yet watched the final episode that aired Thursday.]

If you're single or recently divorced, you may have learned that dating is the fountain of youth. New relationships send you right back to junior high. All the ups, all the downs, all the feels. 

And while it's a blast to ride that coaster, if you're old enough to wear shoes that don't hurt and realize that no one cares about your eyebrows, you can capitalize on the gifts of aging and shed a bunch of burdensome crap, like the armor of insecurity. 

In this Sandbox space, while we encourage leaders to vent about problems that are shared, if not discussed, by others in the same role, we also want to have a big pajama party and let y'all throw pillows at each other and laugh so hard you pee your pants. Because maybe we've had enough competition and backstabbing.

Our guest president this week is calling for more burping in public authenticity in gatherings of leaders.

Webcast About $$$ and Strategy

Dozens of current members participated in a webcast conversation this week with Rick Staisloff of rpk GROUP about the state of higher education finances, the questions institutional leaders should be asking to understand their own situations, and the need for greater transparency. If you missed it, you can watch at your leisure. It's not quite as upbeat as The Golden Bachelor, but we hope you find it helpful.

Watch

Guest Essay

The writer is a current president 

When I am in meetings with my presidential peers, I almost always walk away from these kinds of peer spaces (e.g., provost or president/chancellor-only meetings) with a sense that I am the only one in the room who has challenges and problems, or at least that mine are unique. 

Sometimes I bring these issues to the conversations; sometimes I am also that one who humble-brags about the latest achievement. But more often I am shamed into being quiet, thinking “wow, I wish that I had that great problem!” (think: enrollments exceeding projections; wealthy donors requiring too much attention; faculty with excess grant funding wanting bonuses; too many invitations to speak; too much attention from the media.)

I often feel like these peer group discussions are a waste of time, or worse. The premise is that we are meeting to support each other and improve our performance by allowing for the sharing of challenges and concerns, without having to worry about maintaining our presidential posture, betraying vulnerability, or scaring our constituents. Yet they often turn into opportunities to pretend and preen. 

That is a waste of my time. 

When it happens on Zoom, I start reading my email. But when it happens out of town at a meeting that was hard to schedule and costly to attend, I am wasting more than my time: I am harming my institution. Even worse, as a group we are wasting a rare opportunity to find ways to address our real problems as a society and transform higher education.

Why can’t we be real with each other? 

There are several possible explanations. First, it’s strategic: our institutions compete with each other for students, rankings, and external support, and we may fear that exposing any weakness will lower our institution’s reputation in the eyes of the others. We rightly see our jobs as championing our institutions to gain a variety of resources and it’s hard to set that strategic habit aside. 

There are also non-rational causes of our pretensions: presidents are not selected for their humility but for their ambition, confidence, and storytelling abilities. We are personally competitive. Furthermore, when resources are scarce or times are tough, we naturally adopt a protective mindset.

I believe in the value of competition in many situations. In athletic contests and in the marketplace, I truly believe that it makes us better, more productive. Yet competition without cooperation or regulation is destructive. It stultifies innovation and discourages mutual aid. That’s what I am seeing right now in higher education in these top roles. I believe that we need to cooperate more—starting with being honest and candid with each other when we have the chance.

Perhaps meetings—and even dinners with people who are not close friends—are not the place to expect that, but at least we should not pretend that we are truth-telling. To my more experienced colleagues: where do you find that space, if ever?

Spam your friends, relatives, frenemies!

Please feel free to forward this issue to anyone (the electronic equivalent of writing our phone number on a bathroom stall) and tell them if they like The Sandbox, they too can become an Insider and get a Saturday morning jolt/sympathy pat from me, authentic words from fellow leaders, and a bunch of other goodies. 

We want leaders to read us, write for us, drink with us in bars, join us on long hikes in the mountains, come together in whatever form that takes to shed the armor and talk honestly about higher ed and the challenges we all face. 

JOIN

The Litter Box

We believe in diversity, equity, and inclusion. We believe in access. We know the field isn’t level but think everyone should get to play—not just those with pedigrees and good breeding but also the scrappier ones who may have had a rougher start in life. This applies to institutions (community colleges as well as research universities), leaders (the Ivy-all-the-ways and those who came from less “traditional” backgrounds), and animal companions (we're not speciest).

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Harry Carroll Toor, deputy Sandboxer-in-Chief

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